The Secret Art of Journaling

“Everybody allows that the talent of writing agreeable letters is peculiarly female. Nature may have done something, but I am sure it must be essentially assisted by the practice of keeping a journal.” ~ Jane Austen, Northanger Abbey.

Despite Miss Jane’s quotation above, what do Marcus Aurelius, Louisa May Alcott, Thomas Edison, Leonardo Da Vinci, and Epictetus the Roman Slave have in common? They all kept extensive journals, recording their wistful desires, their secret needs, and the history going on around them. Journals that historians have found, read, and preserved for future generations.

While it’s fun to read other people’s words, especially those written during epic historical times, the beauty of these scribblings  is that they were never meant to be public. They were private conversations between the writer, his head, and his heart. I’m sure if Epictetus knew one day, over two thousand years after his death, that his journal would be one of the most important primary historical sources regarding Ancient Rome, he probably wouldn’t have bothered searching for ink and papyrus.

But if people didn’t journal for posterity, why did they bother?

To heal the mind.

A 2011 study in Science  found that students who journaled about their upcoming math exams had less anxiety about their tests and received higher grades. Why? The researchers believe that “…by acknowledging their fears, students were able to tame distracting emotions.”

Perhaps because writing slows down the mind, it’s a perfect way to examine your day, your worries, your joys, and all of the things going on around you. Journaling offers the writer a chance to lay out the disparate points of her life and make sense of it all. Often, when journaling, I realized I was happy/mad/annoyed/etc about a certain situation that on the surface seemed trivial. Writing things out by hand can be the best form of therapy, it helps you find patterns in your life that are both helpful and hurtful. Journaling releases unresolved or repressed emotions and fears.

Whether you’re new to journaling, or an expert, here are a few tips to up your diary game:

Best Time:

It may take practice to figure this out, but finding your optimum journaling time is key to making this a successful habit. In Julia Cameron’s book The Artist’s Way, she suggests morning pages. The writer writes first thing in the morning and fills three journal pages without stopping. The sentences can be non-stop, there can be off-color words and thoughts, it can even be a grocery or to-do list.  On the other hand, the Roman philosopher Seneca wrote every night after his wife went to bed. Supposedly, Seneca once confided, “I examine my entire day and go back over what I’ve done and said, hiding nothing from myself, passing nothing by.”

Best Journal:

Since this is a notebook where you’re going to bare your soul on a daily basis, it’s important you love what you’re writing in. That doesn’t mean it has to be fancy or expensive. It could be a legal pad or a college-ruled notebook. What it looks like doesn’t matter. What matters is it fits who you are and your writing style. The same goes for pens. Use what you love, not what’s in style.

Write Fast:

What this really means is as soon as you start writing, write as fast as you can to kill your inner editor.  If your inner critic can’t keep up as you skim along the pages, he’ll go away. The same advice works on your handwriting. If it’s messy, let it go. This is for your eyes only. Some writers I know say they never reread what they’ve written in their journals. They write their souls onto the page and move on. Neatness doesn’t matter.

Be Kind.

…to yourself. Your journal is your friend. If all you have to say one day is “I’m tired”, be kind to yourself and say “that’s okay.” Keeping a journal isn’t a race or a competition. It’s a private collection of thoughts that help you make sense of all the good and bad things you’ve experienced in the last twenty-four hours. The great thing about friends? They don’t expect you to be perfect. So let the perfection go.

Be Creative.

You can journal morning pages, or night-time reflections. Or you can keep a gratitude or prayer journal. I know others who keep vision journals where the write about the things they hope for in their lives. Then there are those who track their mood and health. What that Science journal found was that it didn’t matter so much what you were writing about. It was the act of writing that subdued a person’s anxiety.

It was the act of writing that brought peace.

And who doesn’t need more of that in their lives?

Sharon Wray is a librarian who once studied dress design in the couture houses of Paris and now writes about the men in her Deadly Force romantic suspense series where ex-Green Berets meet their match in smart, sexy heroines who teach these alpha males that Grace always defeats Reckoning.

Her acclaimed debut book EVERY DEEP DESIRE, a sexy, action-packed retelling of Romeo and Juliet, is about an ex-Green Beretdetermined to regain his honor, his freedom, and his wife.

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14 Comments Add yours

  1. Hey, Sarah. Interesting post. First off, if I journaled, it would have to be on the computer. I hate to write by hand anymore. My fingers don’t want to work. My mind runs way faster than my hand can keep up. And for the most part it’s illegible except for a couple hours after I’ve completed the words.
    I guess most of us of a certain age kept a diary as kids. It was kind of a fun activity. (My hands still worked back then. LOL) I realize that the journal is for the writer, but I kind of think of our blogging as a different form of journaling. For the most part, we write about whatever is upper most in our minds at the time–at least I do. Certainly a thought provoking post. I’ve shared. 🙂

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    1. Sharon Wray says:

      I know a lot of people who journal by computer as well as through dictation. I don’t think the manner of writing matters so much as the act of clearing one’s mind from the matters of the day.


  2. Kathryn Jane says:

    I began scribbling down thoughts when I was a teenager filled with angst, but never managed to journal consistently until a few years back when managing a large ranch and needing an accounting of what happened when.
    I’ve kept that up for over ten years now, but still never manage to delve into the personal, but instead just a factual what happened during the day. It sure comes in handy sometimes to have a record to go back to for information 😀
    And I do a daily gratitude post on FB. Those are fun to look back on years later 😀

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    1. Sharon Wray says:

      I started journaling every day when I ended up in the hospital for months during my pregnancy. I was told to keep track of everything they gave me, from tissues to sonograms, so I could compare the bills with what actually happened. Thank goodness I did. The Insurance ended using my journal to prove fraud on part of the hospital!!


  3. Reblogged this on Jacquie Biggar-USA Today Best-selling author and commented:

    Sharon Wray​ shares the values of writing in a journal on the Sisterhood of Suspense​ #blog. This is something I’ve never tried, how about you? Do you have a journal?


  4. tidalscribe says:

    I have a journal; knowing I would never write every day I told myself make an entry for important family events. But often with all my other writing I don’t keep up with even that. I do like the idea of handwriting ( though mine has always been untidy ), we must never lose that art and really nice note books, perhaps a gift, are so nice.


    1. Sharon Wray says:

      I agree that it would be a shame to lose the art of handwriting. Mine isn’t great but it is consistent in form and loops thanks to many hours with nuns in elementary school!

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  5. I’ve been keeping a diary for many years, and now I’m supposedly retired, I write in the mornings over my first cup of tea – usually in bed. I’ve always loved the action of hand-writing on a blank page, but doubt whether anyone, other than family members, would be enthralled or interested.Typical: Weather/world and or local news/ ODD dreams/plans for day, if any, ‘Mad’ on-line traffic report/friends and relatives activities/health/whereabouts (some prolific travellers) Note feelings and thoughts at times,quotations and odd jokes or favourite expressions, ideas for stories/changes,book reviews, etc., Husband says I have ink in my aged veins…

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    1. Sharon Wray says:

      I love to write with my first cup of tea and at night before I go to bed. The great thing about journaling is there are no rules or right way to do it. 🙂

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  6. Excellent post…thanks for sharing, Sharon. I’ve been doing Morning Pages–off and on–for the past eleven years. I like getting rid of those negative emotions early in the day. 🙂


    1. Sharon Wray says:

      I love doing morning pages too, Joanne! It is a wonderful way to clear your mind before you start your day!!


  7. LisaDay says:

    I wonder, also, if Epictetus would have self-edited if he knew someone was going to read it? Luckily, my handwriting is awful. I can’t imagine anyone actually being able to read mine.


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