Memories in Lavender Fields

I once had a best friend. The kind of friend who felt more like a sister, was one of the best critique partners I’ve ever had, and would do anything for you regardless of the time of day. Unfortunately, this friend, Karen, died a few years ago of brain cancer. And her loss is still a painful hole in my heart.

During this summer’s lockdown, I’ve felt her presence even more keenly. Karen was a summer girl–she loved the pool (which is closed), she was addicted to farmer’s markets (also closed), and loved going on summer adventures like driving hours into the Virginia mountains to find an elusive lavender field.

So one summer a few years ago, while she was taking a break from chemo, I packed her into the car and drove for hours until I found the lavender field. When we got out of the car, the first thing I noticed (after the blistering heat and humidity), was the scented air. Every breath we took filled our senses with the smell of lavender.

After buying our tickets to walk the field, we grabbed baskets and scissors and hit the fields. While we had some trouble getting her wheelchair to move along the narrow, dirt rows, we were able to traverse the acres of fields that stretched before us.

It didn’t take long to fill our baskets with lavender and other wildflowers. Since we’d paid for the “picnic ticket”, we were allowed to cut however much we could carry and then bring our own picnic into the field. Luckily, we claimed a picnic table (which was much easier for her wheelchair), and I put out the lunch we’d carried with us. I’d put together a charcuterie board with foods that I knew Karen liked and was still able to eat. But when I took out the iced tea, Karen began to fret. You see, Karen was English–like, from England. London, actually. So the concept of iced tea was still, even after years in this country, totally foreign to her. She simply didn’t get it.

Since I knew this about her, I pulled out some homemade iced cold lemonade. With her limited speech, she thanked me. After lunch, I bought us ice cream at the Lavender Shop. Although we made a mess, the treat was worth it.

After another two hours of wandering the fields and cutting flowers, she knew it was time to go home. How did I know this? Because she started to cry. At this point in her illness, she couldn’t speak but she could cry. Since I knew she wouldn’t want to return home–to her protocols and drugs and hospital bed–I gave her a surprise. I’d set up an afternoon tea in the Lavender Shop.

Once we were settled in the Lavender Shop, we were served black tea along with plates and trays of lavender-infused treats. Lavender shortbread. Lavender Lemon bars. Lavender and chocolate cookies. Even a lavender, pineapple, and chicken salad sandwich. So we ate and ate and ate until the hot summer sun began to set. And although Karen was a born-and-bred English woman-who was always critical of anything regarding tea–she loved it as much as I did.

As we drove home, the sun began to set and Karen grabbed my hand and squeezed. I knew what she was saying but I didn’t want to admit the truth. This was going to be Karen’s last summer in the lavender fields. And after a long, hard fight with cancer, that ended up being true. Still, every summer I still take my kids to tea in the Lavender Shop. It’s a way of remembering my dearest friend in the loveliest way possible while making memories with my own children.

I have a feeling that for the rest of my life, every time I smell lavender, I won’t just think of hot summer days and lavender shortbread cookies. I will always think of Karen.

Sharon Wray is a librarian who once studied dress design in the couture houses of Paris and now writes about the men in her Amazon bestselling Deadly Force romantic suspense series where ex-Green Berets meet their match in smart, sexy heroines who teach these alpha males that Grace always defeats Reckoning.

Her third book, IN SEARCH OF TRUTH, is about an ex-Green Beret desperate to win back the woman he loves and save the men he betrayed, even if he must make the greatest sacrifice. It’s available at: Amazon |  Barnes & Noble Books-a-Million | iBooks|  Google | Kobo | IndieBound | Audible

13 Comments Add yours

  1. Good morning, Sharon! Your post is so heartfelt. I’m so glad you had this time with your friend and continue a way of remembering your friendship. I have lavender at my house. I love to pick a stem and rub it on my arm and neck, releasing the fragrance. And my soap preference? Lavender. Hugs!

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    1. Sharon Wray says:

      Thanks so much, Vicki! I love lavender soap as well. Every time I smell it, I immediately feel calm and happy. 🙂

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  2. Hey, Sharon. What a beautiful post and tribute to your friend. What a wonderful friend you were to her. I know she must’ve appreciated all the work you did for her. Beautiful pics, too. Does anyone not love lavender? It relaxes me and makes me hopeful. I’ve shared.

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    1. Sharon Wray says:

      Thanks so much, Marsha. Lavender is one of my all-time favorite scents and I had plans to go to the fields this summer–except they’re closed. I keep telling myself that next year the fields will be even more bountiful having had a year off! 🙂

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  3. Kathryn Jane says:

    Thank you for sharing such a lovely memory ❤

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    1. Sharon Wray says:

      Thank you so much, Kathryn Jane! 🙂

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  4. Reblogged this on Jacquie Biggar-USA Today Best-selling author and commented:

    A beautiful post on the meaning of friendship by Sharon Wray​

    Liked by 1 person

    1. Sharon Wray says:

      Thank you so much, Jacquie!

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  5. This post says a lot about your kind heart, Sharon. I’m sure your friend, Karen, was grateful for the time away from the reality of her life. {{hugs}}

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    1. Sharon Wray says:

      That is so sweet, Jacquie. I still remember that day so well, as well as others, and it’s still hard to believe she’s gone.

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  6. Such a wonderful memory, Sharon; I’m sure Karen appreciated the day beyond any words that ever could have been said.


  7. petespringerauthor says:

    Simply beautiful and touching! What a special day with a treasured friend!

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    1. Sharon Wray says:

      Thank you so much, Peter. I really appreciate your comment!

      Liked by 1 person

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