My husband and I are about to celebrate our 50th wedding anniversary on June 5. As a part of that celebration, I’ve been preparing a power point presentation for the small party and looking back over 50 years of pictures and memories. It’s been fun even though the work has taken me away from my WIP, COMPROMISE, which I really need to finish and send to my Beta Readers. I tend to focus on what is most imminent. Our anniversary has a hard deadline. Sending the book to the Beta Readers is flexible. 😊
I discovered an interesting take-away from looking at all the pics and thinking over the events and emotions, and I want to share that with y’all. Way too many times I didn’t feel good enough or smart enough or thin enough or pretty enough or capable enough. In looking back I realize I was all of those, or at least “good enough,” but I missed it in a search for perfection.
Perfection only exists in nature.
Don’t let a search for perfection keep you from recognizing and celebrating the wonderfulness of now. I don’t mean to imply you shouldn’t keep striving to improve. Of course you should, but don’t let that overshadow who and what you are right now, this very minute. Which is unique. No one else is just like you with your talents, skills, and outlook. I need to remind myself of this daily.
When I first started writing, my self-esteem was getting battered weekly by well-meaning critique partners (who incidentally I learned a ton from). But it was exceedingly difficult. I’d leave those meetings thinking I should just give up. I’d never get the hang of this writing thing. Why should I go back the next week to get beat up again? Query letters led to rejections or just being ignored. Dark times to be sure. Somewhere I ran across a quote from an author whose name I don’t remember, and I don’t even have the quote exactly right. Here’s a paraphrase of what she said:
You have your own unique voice and perspective. No one can birth the words of your story in exactly the way you can. Tell your story.
So I kept on keeping on and now I have 8 published books, not best sellers, but “good enough.”
Each of us, whether a writer or reader, no matter our age, the age of our kids, whether we have kids or not…each of us has our own uniqueness to contribute to the world. Let’s remember that and show a little grace to each other and to ourselves.
Please take a moment over the weekend to remember and honor our military men and women who gave their lives that we can learn, grow, make mistakes, regroup, try again.
I’ve shared this quote on our Sunday Lies before, but it’s worth repeating.
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